I love Aaron. It's still true. Last night we went to bed at midnight because we had family over, and we always lose track of time when that happens. Adelia woke up at 1:30am and took about a half hour to go back down. Ivan woke up at 2:30am shrieking at the top of his lungs because Lincoln had gotten up to use the bathroom and he didn't like the idea of being alone in the room. Adi was up again at 3:00, but would not go back to bed. She was in our room in the port-a-crib, because Aaron's mom was staying in her room. I didn't want to feed her, because I already had once in the night already. But, since she was at the foot of our bed, it was really practical to let her cry either. I walked around with her. Aaron walked around with her. Her diaper got changed. She got re-swaddled. We did let her cry for about 20 minutes, which was sheer torture to my eardrums. Finally at about 4:00am I took her downstairs to the living room. I let her play of the floor with toys. She was perfectly happy. I was perfectly angry. I facebooked. I blogged. I tried putting her down again around 5:00am. No luck. I took her back downstairs. She played some more, happily. I curled up in a blanket and bawled my eyes out. Finally at 6:30am she let me feed her another bottle and put her back to bed.
Lincoln of course, came bouncing in at 7:30am, happy as a clam after a full night's sleep. I think I said something like, "If you wake up Adelia you will be in time out for the rest of your life." But I can't remember because I was really tired. He did wake up Adelia. Aaron (probably fearing for both their lives) scooped them both up and took them downstairs. He let me sleep until 9:00am, when he woke me up to take him to work.
I was grateful to have Aaron's mom here. Having another sane adult around to keep me company all day distracted me from how tired and ornery I felt. She probably had a big hand in keeping my children alive for the day. She made me a chocolate milk shake and was so nice to me, even though I was feeling like Momzilla. She left around 3:00pm to go back to Salt Lake.
I was only alone for two hours, but today that was enough. Aaron saved my life again. He came home and took all three kids out to help him sift the dirt in the garden, so I could be inside by myself in the quiet to make dinner. He loves me. He always knows what I need. He always helps with the kids and the house, even though I know that a lot of the time he feels overloaded from school and work. He doesn't get a lot of time to himself, yet he rarely complains about it. Instead he thinks of ways to give me time by myself, and encourages me to do the things that make me happy.
On a completely different topic...Ivan was really funny with the toy drill today. He went around "screwing in" all the light switch covers. :) Love that kid.
4 comments:
Wow! She is so much like Emmett is/was! I did the same thing yesterday except I didnt have a sane adult with me and I am pretty sure that Emmett just screamed his whole birthday away since I just couldn't handle carrying him everywhere while cleaning and he didn't want to be in the carrier on my back. We will get through this! Neither Emmett nor Adiela can stay this way forever...They will get bigger right? On a better subject. I have found (since Emmett was about 6mo) that if I made sure to feed him about 6 tubs of baby food (at 6mo it was 5-6 no its 6+) the 2.5oz tubs then he only wakes up about 1 time a night. its really hard to do when you have a lot going on but that has really helped with his night time eating. Also our pedi said that some babies are truely still hungry at night past the "6mo" that they usually tell you and you just have to go with your gut (I let her know that it really sucked)
do you think Adelia has problems with soy? have you tried the hypoallergenic formula...I think it's called Neutramagen or something. Just curious. I had problems with milk and soy when I was young, so it does happen... not that that is the problem - just thought I'd throw it out there. Bless you for continuing to function and sound fairly normal! And YAY for husbands who step it up when we just can't take it anymore!
I so know your pain. Tell those kiddos they need to be nice to you! I'm glad to know you had some help on a day like that.
Sorry you had such a rough night. I hope its gotten better and thats nice you had help from Aaron and in-laws.
I just wanted you to know that I do look up to you as an amazing mother who teaches her children so much. I want to be like that and I appreciate that you blog about the hard times of being a parent because it is hard and so many people just post about happy times and it makes me feel like a terrible parent for not always being happy. Thank you for being honest.
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